Eating and Body Image Concerns
How To Help A Friend
- Before you can help anyone else you need to be certain of the
facts and be knowledgeable about eating disorders and disordered
eating. Read books, search the internet (Eating and Body Image
Concerns links on HD Online), pick up brochures, and research
articles, and consult with professionals.
- Consult with staff at CAPS or Student Health about how to
effectively confront a friend. Confrontation can be emotionally
draining on both parties.
- If you suspect a problem with a close friend confront them
early on. Recovery from an eating disorder is more rapid when
treatment is started early. Don’t wait till it’s too late.
- Be a supportive friend. Be honest. Be caring. Be sure to tell
them how you are feeling and what you are noticing. Be aware that
your comments may be received with anger and hostility. Most
individuals are not receptive to hearing that they have a
problem.
- When talking with your friend, use “I” statements - avoid
accusational “you” statements. For example, say “I’m concerned
about you because…”. Not “You just need to eat! You are crazy!” –
this will get you no where!
- Tell your friend that you will bring this up again. Remember
that your friend is more than their eating disorder.
- Leave resources with your friend – campus and national
resources.
- Model supportive, healthy behaviors. Be sensitive in areas your
friend may be struggling. Avoid comments about weight, shape and
appearance - your own or others.
